Sunday, April 10, 2011

Thoughts on Virginity


So I saw the beginning of a tv series (not going to mention names or anything really - just concepts) and I was shocked. As an LDS, teenage girl I've been told from day one that keeping my virtue is top on my list - because that's the only way I can reach the Celestial Kingdom. I was surprised by this tv series and how it displayed intercourse between a male and female...and not only how lightly they took it all...but how young they were! These kids were 15 and 16 and they couldn't imagine going until after college, unmarried and virgins! And THEN they don't care about it still unless there are consequences - such as pregnancy!

It just makes me so very very...mad? but mostly, disappointed.

In my world today - outside of my small universe (being LDS and living in Utah, let alone the lower valley of Utah defines me as VERY sheltered...along with being homeschooled and privately educated my entire life does add to my lack of "knowledge" of these things) - boyfriend and girlfriend to the outside world means sex and fun, and ultimately doesn't mean anything that it is supposed to mean.

Today love doesn't mean the friendship and the companionship of persons through life and persevering through trials together through all your days, instead it means a bed-fellow.

The lude and open and pornographic picture which life has been turned into is like a pile of crud and waste and nasty stuff...it used to be healthy plants, vegetables and fruit (forgive the nasty mental image) and once it has been processed and processed again and again - they give us our world today.

Now I understand why when some people who are older than I am, when they've found out how I am in a relationship, how shocked they are; they grew up with the above mental image! How shocked I would be with myself if I were to fall into such a trap!

Intimacy at any age before marriage is a fine line to walk along. We set our own standards and it up to ONLY US to keep them. Every safe-guard outside of ourselves can be surpassed and if our will-power is not strong enough then it will be overthrown. When we give in to our carnal man inside of us, then we give up all right to choose our consequences. You may use a condom or pregnancy pills etc. but there is no safeguard ever except complete and total abstinence.

Another thing about this show that ticked me off: The one girl who seemed to have her head on straight; being Christian, virgin, determined to stay a virgin until after marriage was portrayed as stupid, overly cheerful, "blond", fake; whereas everyone else in the series weren't exactly portrayed as angels either but not made to look so...unrealistic. Is it really that hard to control your appetite!?!? NO!!!

On Facebook recently I saw a poll that was going around; the question was this - In a relationship which was the most important?: Sex, Trust or Communication

Honestly??? The people in this show were uncaring of how the consequences of fornication would really affect their lives! The one girl in the show who did get pregnant was devastated (though in my opinion not devastated enough) but what was so uncaring was how the boy whose stupid fault it was: didn't even care. He carried no blame, no shame for his lude and gross acts. Having been the one to seduce her, he should have felt the ultimate shame for the pain that she had to physically suffer. The jerk.

The sacred relationship between a husband and wife is being trumpeted from the rooftops. Information that should never have been public can now easily found online, within any ignorant child's reach. At the click of that mouse a life could be ruined. The lightness with which something so sacred is being treated is destroying our nation, and even our world! The Lord WILL NOT let us remain in this perverse grossness.

So....honestly, what do we do?

For me, I know what I am going to do. I'm going to set higher standards. I will not allow myself to be dragged down into this perverted world. When sensual humor is implied I determine to set my foot down. I don't stand for that. I'm a princess, the daughter of the King and I will not back down. This is my Standard. I hope this was a wake-up call to someone else as well. Someday when I have children I hope they will have this same surety of right and wrong.

These are my thoughts as always so if you have any comments or thoughts - please comment, as always I'd love to hear them.

-Kaylla

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